What changes the position & course of one’s societal life is one: developing the being to initiate new conversations with self through imagination & with others through articulation. & two: taking the moment's action to bring the intention into reality. Repetition of this at greater levels of skill is the key to greater levels of access within civilized nations.
To con-verse is to share a pattern of sounds & symbols with another. It is where two minds become one though attending to the meta-structure of the discourse which both parties add to moment by moment. This is opposed to a lecture where a single voice dictates the thoughts of an audience in a one sided force of influence. Lecturing is effective for a group to know the mind of the speaker, but the speaker knows nothing of the audience. Its social function is to create a hierarchy. Whereas the conversation’s social function is to create rapport. To balance the playing field. To share each other's humanity without resistance. This is the only route to sensible coexistence because everyone’s intelligence is free to play & welcomed to engage. & those who present unsolicited lectures automatically get talked about behind their backs because they leave no room for the con-verse. They slowly believe only in their own uni-verse, & fall into narcissism. The people will tolerate their expressions to maintain the benefits of their dynamic, but they will despise him & have no desire to coexist to share their humanity.
This is a foolish way to behave: to be on a self created pedestal that simultaneously ostracizes oneself from those who he or she could learn from & care for with sincerity. So if you desire connection, initiate conversations. If you want neurotic isolation, lecture to people who didn’t ask for it. Of course, if your tongue generates words of wisdom from your heart that intends to uplift others who yearn for your message, then by all means take the stage to articulate with passion! But if you have the common sense to see the situation at hand is a mutual dance of expression & discovery; & not an opening to dump your “insight” upon an unwilling other, then please, have the humanity to con-verse. If you handle these two methods of communication sensibly, the world will open to you in ways you couldn’t have possibly imagined because there will be outcomes manifested by collaboration: life’s magical production.
